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intimate relationships (synastry) is an
extremely complex issue in astrology. So many factors
have to be taken into consideration. and novices
to the subject are almost guaranteed to
read the situation very poorly, because it is so
complex. I highly recommend consulting a
professional astrologer expertly skilled in these
matters if you want to really understand the dynamics
of a relationship, and how to use this knowledge
to steer yourself towards greater love and happiness
in all of your relationships.
Until you really know what you are doing with compatibility and
astrology, there is a strong likelihood of taking some influences
out of context and misreading the whole picture. All relationships have
relatively positive and negative elements of astrological synastry; it
takes a lot of experience to know how to weigh everything appropriately.
And even when you have learned a lot about the subject, it is still practically
impossible (if not completely impossible) to do an objective synastry
analysis of one of your own romantic interests.
So let's start with a basic, beginning overview of astrological synastry
(relationship compatibility). This article will give you a lot, but it
still really just scratches the surface. So I must caution that it is
definitely not possible to do a complete compatibility reading with only
the information below. But it is a good start. Those who want to know
more might look into my tape
series or into my classes and private
Sun, ASC, Venus, Mars
One can get a good glimpse of one's needs and desires in relationships
through the Moon, Sun, Venus, Mars, and Ascendant. In general, the
Sun and Moon primarily indicate true needs, Venus and Mars primarily
indicate desires or attractions, and the Ascendant indicates some
general needs and desires.
the best relationship is one where one's needs (Sun
and Moon) and desires (Venus and Mars) are both met.
One way to do a general compatibility test between
two people is to look at the relationship between each
of these five placements across the two charts: Sun-Sun,
Moon-Moon, Venus-Venus, Mars-Mars, and Asc-Asc. When
the placements are in the same gender (fire and air
are masculine, earth and water are feminine) or element--the
same element or a close sextile is best--these placements
are basically compatible. But of course it's much more
complicated than that. To begin, here's a short discussion
of the Moon, Sun, Ascendant, Venus, and Mars in terms
of compatibility issues, listed in order of their importance
and weight in synastry.
Planets in Synastry
The Moon is the most important 'planet' in relationships. The Moon represents
deep security needs, and it is difficult to be with with someone who
does not offer us what our Moon needs. The element of one's Moon sign
and house (I recommend using Porphyry House System) are elements that
one's partner must have in a significant way if we are to be compatible
with them, or at least one of these two elements (if there are two).
If one's partner is not strongly made up of the same element of one's
Moon sign and/or house, then strong harmonious aspects between one's
Moon and the partner's chart could also create a harmonious Moon connection.
Positive Moon compatibility will show two people who feel "at home" with
one another, and instinctively care for one another. It's like being
family. That's why it's the most important planet in synastry. If you
want to spend the rest of your life sleeping in the same bed as someone
else, you obviously need to feel like family to one another.
In particular, since the Moon is feminine, the Moon shows what a man
needs in a woman. But the Moon definitely shows very vital needs for
women, as well.
Since the Sun is masculine, the Sun particularly shows what a woman needs
from a man. But also, for men, it shows an element that must be present
in their partners for compatibility to be present. If a man does not
have the qualities of the element of a woman's Sun, it will be difficult
for her to ultimately trust and feel respect for him. At the very least,
she must feel the basic energy as a masculine/feminine polarity, i.e.
an Earth or Water Sun sign needs strong feminine energy, and a Fire or
Air Sun sign needs strong masculine energy.
The Ascendant shows our view of ourselves and of life, and how we bring
ourselves into the world. So being with someone who has some major personal
placements in harmony with our Ascendant is also very important. It's
fairly important for two people to have their Ascendants of the same
gender (fire and air signs are masculine, water and earth signs are feminine),
and it's great if they are of the same element or a close sextile, but
if not, this can be balanced by having a conjunction or opposition between
the Sun, Moon, or Venus of one person and the Ascendant of the other.
It's better if each person 'receives' one of these conjunctions or oppositions
if the Ascendants are in a more conflictual sign relationship (square,
semi-sextile, or quincunx), and especially if the Ascendants are square
to one another.
Venus shows what a man is attracted to in a woman. Being with a woman
who is strong in his Venus element, or who makes close sextiles to
his Venus makes the relationship much easier, and increases sexual
desire and compatibility. For a woman, her Venus is part of her feminine
nature, so it is definitely best when her partner also relates well
with this element. When people have positive Venus synastry, they
naturally like and love each other. That, of course, is what makes
positive Venus synastry so great.
Mars shows what a woman is attracted to in a man. Being with a man who
is strong in her Mars element, or who makes close sextiles with her
Mars, makes the relationship much easier, and increases sexual desire
and compatibility. For a man, his Mars is part of his masculine nature,
so it is best when his partner also relates well with this element.
However, too much Mars is really not a good thing for synastry and compatibility,
and most Western astrological literature will not tell you this. Mars
is not always the "pretty face" we've made him to be. Major
conjunctions, squares, oppositions, and quincunxes with Mars are not
really desirable for people looking for the most enjoyable relationship
possible, but again, "a part is not the whole," so we still
have to look at a lot more. It is certainly possible to have a rewarding
connection with someone, even if you have the sort of Mars synastry discussed
above, but that still doesn't mean that I would particularly recommend
it. I believe that research and direct experience will show you the truth
of what I'm saying. Sure, Mars contacts are great for sex, but how many
hours a day can you have sex? And how many hours a day do you just spend
time talking with a partner, not grunting like animals? In short, if
you are the sort of person who can't get enough of conflict, major and
hard Mars synastry may be just what the doctor ordered.
in Synastry and Compatibility
the Moon, Sun, ASC, or Venus form a conjunction with
the same very placement of another (i.e, Moon-Moon),
or with one of the others in that group (i.e., Sun-ASC),
it is especially strong for compatibility. Mars-Mars
conjunctions are generally pretty volatile and conflicting,
however, but are certainly good for sexuality per se,
at least at first. Conjunctions in particular, with
the exception of Mars (or Saturn or Pluto) conjunctions
give the most compatibility. As always, the whole picture,
rather than just individual details, absolutely must be
taken into consideration. A relationship simply cannot
be read with any one astrological ingredient. But conjunctions
are really the best aspect for compatibility in general,
because compability is primarily about similarity,
and no aspect indicates similarity like a conjunction
Oppositions are interesting.
They are incredibly strong for attraction,
and they are also basically strong for compatibility.
But oppositions also come with some ... well,
opposition. All in all, I consider them reasonably
positive when they are between 'soft' planets (i.e.
Mars, Saturn, and Pluto are definitely not
but they will eventually bring some significant
elements of stress as well. Too many oppositions
are probably too much to handle unless you
can't get enough of being torn in two directions
at the same time. An eight degree orb works
well for oppositions, but a closer orb of
within six degrees is of course even stronger.
Squares between any of the
five mutual placements (i.e. Venus-Venus,
Sun-Sun) are definitely difficult and indicate
an element of significant incompatibility,
but the compatibility absolutely has to be
looked at as whole, and a little bit of square
energy can be okay if other conditions are
right. When there are square aspects within
a reasonable orb (everyone has their own
opinion here, but I recommend an orb of about
6 degrees), they are particularly important.
When the aspects are formed between whole
signs, but not by actual degrees within a
6 degree orb, they are important, but nowhere
near as significant as an actual square aspect.
Sextiles and Trines,
true to the common wisdom, are quite nice
for synastry. They are exceptionally nice
when the sextiles are within 5 degrees of
orb, and when the trines are within 6 degrees
of orb. Sextiles
have a bit more of stimulating feeling, and
trines have a bit more of an "easy" feeling.
In general, I'd take a nice conjunction as
my first choice for excellent synastry, a
trine second, and a sextile third.
Semi-sextile planets are placements
that are one sign away from each other. For example,
Moon in Taurus and Moon in Aries. This is probably
the least well-understood aspect in synastry.
Basically, it is not at all good. Semi-sextile
energies show completely opposite natures that
really do not "get" each other. It's
like someone who believes in polygamy with someone
who believes in monogamy. No comprende.
An actual semi-sextile aspect, within about a
three-degree orb is an especially problematic
issue. A large number of semi-sextile planets
is not at all good for compatible synastry. Check
it out and you'll see what I mean. However, all
of the above applies almost entirely to same-planet-to-same-planet
semi-sextiles. So having Moon and Sun in semi-sextile
signs between two people may not be a big deal
at all. But having Sun-Sun or Moon-Moon in semi-sextile
will eventually be an issue between two people
in real intimacy.
Quincunxes are probably
the most confusing aspect in synastry.
They tend to get a bad rap, which is partially
quite well deserved. However, an actual
close quincunx between compatible planets
such as Venus-Venus, Moon-Moon, Sun-Sun,
or ASC-ASC is actually a very positive
connection on the one hand, in addition
to the problems of the quincunx on the
other hand. Quincunx planets have a "6-8" relationship
with each other in astrology, which basically
indicates an energy that is more heavy, "karmic," and
dysfunctional. The really unusual thing
about a quincunx is that a close quincunx
(of three degrees and fifteen minutes or
less) between basically 'soft' planets
actually give some very strong
compatibility to counter-balance the problems
of the quincunx signs. I have to thank
the Magi Society's research for helping
me to eventually put this puzzle together.
Venus quincunx Venus within three degrees?
Thank them lucky stars.
basic compatibility test is to see if two people are
basically of the same astrological gender.
Masculine people need masculine partners. Feminine
people need feminine partners. Balanced people can
go both ways, but are best with balanced partners.
The more similar two people's astrological gender is,
the more compatible they will be.
between the Moon and the Ascendant, the Sun and the
Moon, and the Sun and the Ascendant are some of the
best aspects for long-term compatibility. Moon-Moon,
ASC-ASC, and Sun-Sun conjunctions are also in this
most compatible category. When these sorts of conjunctions
occur, particularly Moon-ASC, it can give people a
very high degree of compatibility and connection, even
if other influences are really difficult. I've often
seen people with almost all of their planets in disharmonious
relationships, but then they have Moon conjunct ASC,
and they stay together for a couple of decades or so.
Moon-ASC almost, though not entirely, acts as a cancellation of
other hard influences.
Trines and sextiles between Venus and Venus, Venus and Mars, or Mars
and Mars (or a Venus-Venus conjunction) are great aspects for longterm
sexual desire and compatibility.
astrologers today say that some major hard elements
between charts are practically good. I have to disagree
philosophically because of my direct research and experience.
Of course no relationship is perfect, or has perfect
synastry. But are relationships really supposed to
be challenging "growth opportunities"? Or
are they supposed to be easy, fun, and enjoyable? Any
good relationship requires a willingness to communicate
and listen and act co-operatively, but I do not subscribe
to the idea that relationships are supposed to be hard.
I guess it's really a matter of what you like. I like
my relationships without pain, struggle, frustration,
and conflict. How about you?
There is also a common sentiment that aspects such as squares are somewhat
good because they generate passion. I used to think the same thing, because
that's basically what I was taught. But experience has shown me that
this isn't necessarily that true. For a short-lived relationship, such
hard aspects might be fine, because you can just have great sex and fight,
and then break up. But if you want to be passionate with someone for
a long time, you need to also very naturally love one another and find
it easy to be together. Would you rather have a year of great sex and
fighting, or a lifetime of compatibility and good sex? And how good can
it really be to scromp like beasts every once in a while if you don't
particularly like each other the rest of the time? A square here or there
might be fine. That's life, after all. But I do not think squares are
to be desired unless you're the sort of person who truly enjoys conflict.
of Jimmy and Jane
Jane has Sun at 2 Cancer, Moon at 5 Aries in the 2nd House, Venus at
15 Gemini, and Mars at 28 Aquarius, and 17 Pisces Rising.
Jimmy has Sun at 23 Libra, Moon at 9 Leo in the 1st House, Venus at 24
Libra, Mars at 25 Sagittarius, and 4 Cancer Rising.
Moon-Moon: The Moons are
not only in trine signs, but are actually
in a trine. The Moons are in a great relationship
with one another. With Moon in a fire sign
and fire house, Jimmy definitely needs fire
in his partner, and Jane has some strong
fire. Another bonus is the Jimmy's Moon is
in Aries' house, and Jane's Moon is in Aries.
Since the Moon is the most important planet
in synastry, this is a great, great start.
Even if everything else looks conflicting,
Jimmy and Jane will always have a nice Moon
Sun-Sun: Cancer and Libra
Suns are square, which in itself is not good,
but does create some polarity and difference,
and well ... that's life. At least the Suns
are not technically square, being far from
a reasonable orb.
Venus-Venus: The Venus's
are in trine signs, which is great. It would
be really great if they were in a real trine,
but trine signs is a good sign.
Mars-Mars: The Mars's are
in sextile signs, and better yet, an actual
sextile. This looks great for sexual compatibility.
Mars contacts can be messy, but this is one
of the best ways to have Mars-Mars connected
(the trine being the other best way)
Asc-Asc: The Ascendants
are in trine signs which is very good, but
not an actual trine. That's okay, however,
because Jane's Sun is conjunct Jimmy's Ascendant,
which is very, very good.
Overall synastry analysis: Of
these five placements, only the Suns are
not in harmony, but that is moderated by
the Sun-Ascendant conjunction. 4 out of 5
is very good anyway, and the Sun-ASC connection
makes it more like 4.5 or 4.75 out of 5.
They could expect occasional Cancer-Libra
differences to come up, but those would be
quickly replaced by the other aspects which
are harmonious. So, even when problems arise,
harmonious energy will always be just around
In general you'd want to have at least 3 out of these 5 placements in
harmony with one another; anything less than that would probably indicate
too many problems. However, this is not a hard-and-fast (no pun intended)
rule, and it is certainly possible to be relatively compatible with someone
even if you do not pass the above 'test' together. Again, compatibility
with astrology is a very, very complex matter. More has to be looked
at if you want to see the whole picture.
Synastry and compatibility is a fascinating subject, and there is always
a lot more to learn about it.